Song of Solomon 7:1
Your waist is a heap of wheat set about with lilies.
“Your waist is as a heap of wheat?” You won’t find that in too many lists of dating pick-up lines. In Hebrew, the belly or waist was the heart of emotion. In Israel, the wheat was the last crop used at Pentecost. As the last, it was also the best and most important. Solomon is saying to his wife: “Of all of the blessings of God, you are the best one in my life.”
The Song of Solomon is a great story of love, romance and marriage. It shows us that to have a truly blessed marriage, we must make an investment in our spouse. Solomon also wrote in the book of Ecclesiastes, “Enjoy life with the woman whom you love all the days of your fleeting life which He has given to you under the sun; for this is your reward in life and in your toil in which you have labored under the sun” (9:9). God wants us to treat our spouse like a reward from Him.
The Studer Group completed a study on marriage where it was determined that maintaining a 5 to 1 compliment to criticism ratio reduced the divorce rate from 50% to 7%. Wow! That’s powerful information. Basically, it supports what Solomon said thousands of years ago. The easiest trap to fall into is to take your spouse for granted. 1 Corinthians 7:3 says, “Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband.” Affection is multi-faceted in the Christian home. It is first spiritual, then emotional, and last physical. Take the time to develop and maintain the affection in your marriage. It doesn’t take big things like jewelry or trips, but instead it is the small things: holding hands, a kiss, a compliment – the little things that tell your spouse that they are special.
Start today and ask God for help. Don’t wait for your spouse to start first. God will bring romance and oneness back into your relationship.