Song of Solomon – Romance

Song of Solomon 7:1
Your waist is a heap of wheat set about with lilies.

“Your waist is as a heap of wheat?” You won’t find that in too many lists of dating pick-up lines.  In Hebrew, the belly or waist was the heart of emotion.  In Israel, the wheat was the last crop used at Pentecost.  As the last, it was also the best and most important.  Solomon is saying to his wife: “Of all of the blessings of God, you are the best one in my life.”

The Song of Solomon is a great story of love, romance and marriage.  It shows us that to have a truly blessed marriage, we must make an investment in our spouse.  Solomon also wrote in the book of Ecclesiastes, “Enjoy life with the woman whom you love all the days of your fleeting life which He has given to you under the sun; for this is your reward in life and in your toil in which you have labored under the sun” (9:9).  God wants us to treat our spouse like a reward from Him.

The Studer Group completed a study on marriage where it was determined that maintaining a 5 to 1 compliment to criticism ratio reduced the divorce rate from 50% to 7%.  Wow!  That’s powerful information.  Basically, it supports what Solomon said thousands of years ago.  The easiest trap to fall into is to take your spouse for granted.  1 Corinthians 7:3 says, “Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband.”  Affection is multi-faceted in the Christian home.  It is first spiritual, then emotional, and last physical.  Take the time to develop and maintain the affection in your marriage.  It doesn’t take big things like jewelry or trips, but instead it is the small things: holding hands, a kiss, a compliment – the little things that tell your spouse that they are special.

Start today and ask God for help.  Don’t wait for your spouse to start first.  God will bring romance and oneness back into your relationship.


Promised Land Captives, part 1

Romans 12:2 tells us that God wants us to stop being conformed to the world, but instead to be transformed by the renewing of our minds to the Word of God.  The word in the Greek for “conformed” means external patterns that don’t come from within.  When God delivered the children of Israel from Egypt, He did so in order for them to be free, not just physically, but spiritually and mentally as well.  However, Israel didn’t follow the Lord’s ways, but instead was conformed to the external patterns around them.  They never enjoyed the lasting freedom that God wanted for them as His people.  If we don’t deal with the external patterns in our lives, we will become just like the Israelites – Promised Land captives.  When God told Israel to go in and possess the land, He also told them to drive out the inhabitants and destroy their idols and images. The names of the seven enemy nations listed in Joshua 3:10, are very telling when the definition of each name is looked up:

Joshua 3:10
And Joshua said, “By this you shall know that the living God is among you, and that He will without fail drive out from before you the Canaanites and the Hittites and the Hivites and the Perizzites and the Girgashites and the Amorites and the Jebusites:

  1. Canaanite: “To press down”
  2. Hittite: “Fear or terror”
  3. Hivite: “Compromise”
  4. Perizzite: “Lack of commitment”
  5. Girgashite: “Strangers”
  6. Amorite: “Word of murmurers”
  7. Jebusite: “Heaviness”

Do you recognize any of the enemies in your life? Are you in heaviness? Is fear controlling your life? Are you compromising with sin? It is time to face the enemy and drive out him out! God has promised victory, you don’t have to live in defeat!

God didn’t tell Israel that they would overcome all their enemies at once, but “little by little” (Exodus 23:30). God did not want any traces of these heathen idolaters left for the Israelites to emulate. God told them to destroy all of their heathen paraphernalia:

Numbers 33:52-53
Then shall ye drive out all the inhabitants of the land from before you, and destroy all their pictures, and destroy all their molten images, and quite pluck down all their high places: And you shall dispossess the inhabitants of the land, and dwell therein: for I have given you the land to possess it.

God’s people were to destroy and/or pluck down:

  1. All their pictures
  2. All their images
  3. All their high places

If these influences were to remain, it would not be long before the Israelites were worshipping idol gods. This is exactly what happened; they did not deal with them as God instructed. Thorns in their flesh they were until they were brought into captivity. Over and over, Israel went through seven cycles of idolatry bondage and deliverance during the period of the judges.


We will continue with our study tomorrow.